It’s a sad and common state of affairs when the people who our society expects to raise the next generation are too busy worrying about what they are doing wrong to focus on the little people they love. And it’s not like I want to spend my time stressing about what other people think. I DON’T WANT TO CARE ABOUT THE DIFFERENCES IN HOW WE RAISE OUR KIDS. And I’m going to assume that I’m not the only one. I don’t want to be constantly comparing what I do to what you do. So why are we so hardwired to judge ourselves and others on how raise our kids?
I’m not sure if it’s some kind of instinct built into us to make sure kids don’t get neglected, but I don’t know about you but my mummy guilt reflex is OUT OF CONTROL. Obviously if you know more about this (and that wouldn’t be hard) feel free to get in touch.
I’m not prescribing any wisdom, because I have none to offer let alone assert as truth but here are some ideas that help me cope with the constant struggle to keep sane in the face of parenting:
- My kids are fine. Your kids are fine.
- We all develop differently and put all the weight of the development of our kids on how we parent is bananas.
- If the kids are kind, fed, washed, loved, safe and happy then why do we care?
- We know more about keeping kids safe and happy than we ever have.
- No one is a perfect parent
- You can’t parent if you don’t look after yourself at least a little.
- Instant maternal or paternal love is not guaranteed. And parenting is easier for some people than others.
- Looking after kids is a constant learning process.
- Biology only goes so far
- No matter what you do someone will judge you so just do the right thing by your family